Yesterday one of my cousins was married. He and his wife were both a little older, early thirties. They had a beautiful dinner and reception, wasn't only the venue beautiful (the UofU MOA) but most importantly they took the time to mingle and visit with everyone one on one. You felt important and stories were told about them and their courtship, they both seemed so at peace and you could feel a beautiful spirit in the room, so happy they found eachother. He has a crazy job where he has been off in Siberia and a few weeks from now they'll be going to Indonesia for an adventure with his job. While he was in Siberia and Tulsa (for training) Sarah(his wife) has been coming to all the family activities and already feels part of the family, so down to earth, sweet, sensitive, loyal. I am so happy for them.
I thought of my marriage, I was so young, but I've grown and developed so much, our love has developed so much, we just had to do our growing up together, I wonder would it would be like to already be grown up when you get married like this couple? Yet at the same time I think I needed Gordon's strength and love and the trials we've been through to get where I am. And I still feel I'm just a child still always learning, so unaware, still trying to get a handle on things.
I also loved going to their reception because of the long drive, I know that sounds silly, but that is when Gordon and I talk the best is in the car, no kids to distract, just time to talk, we make resolutions, talk about things we need to in our life, and get on the same page. Our wonderful friends the Tenney's watched our kids, I feel I am always in their debt and though they are younger then us, they've already gone far and beyond and we can look to them as examples in so many ways.
I thought of all the girl friends I have and how Gordon's always been supportive of those relationships, smart really. He realizes I always am a happier person and less needy when I make the time for friends. I am so grateful for my marriage, for my husband, the examples of couples around us, and the support I feel and how we are constantly learning and growning through our whole lives.
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Interesting thoughts. It's a good thing I was so grown up when I married Jared so I could help him in all the growing up he had to do--JK.
Yep. All that growing up--like learning how to pay bills and obtain health insurance, car insurance, etc. Like learning to create and live on a budget, balance a checkbook, rotate the tires and change the oil before the pistons fuse to the engine block, etc. "I need someone older and wiser telling me what to do . . . I'll depend on you!" ;)
Joseph and I love the long car drives, too, even if the kids are all loaded up, they can't run around and usually end up falling asleep anyway:). Wish we could have been there for the wedding! Send our love and thanks for the thoughts!
I think you and Gordon are maybe the perfect couple. You are always analyzing things and making them better.
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